It says entrepreneur but it could say anything.
Because today, just as I was preparing a Passion Planner (that’s a brand of agenda) to start functioning as my day to day calendar, I went through my list of goals as I see them today.
Over the last week I had come to realize that three aspects of my life, which I had seen as independent from each other, and therefor ultimately replacable should they fail to provide me the outcome I needed from them (even if that outcome was “joy”) I could not take that out, without suffering consequences in the other areas.
That my entire identity was carefully crafted around these things. And I had given up the dream to get a new career in business, in order to replace two out of three.
I had gotten far, far beyond the point of return.
This was who I was, these three areas were linked:
1. to be a yoga teacher
Either on YouTube, or writing books, or teaching private classes. And the most likely scenario was that it was going to be a combination of the three.
2. An entrepreneur, a marketer.
Writing for my business, or making videos, with something to sell at the end, is my ideal way of doing it.
Not art without context.
I like the incentive of having something to sell, even if no one would buy.
Being an entrepreneur structures my work as a creative.
3. Being a writer
Like today, with 30 minutes and pressing for time, what do I do? I write. Even when in theory making a short video for my YouTube would take less time.
I m first and foremost a writer.
Sometimes I m not even sure if I have it in me to build a following on YouTube. I keep doubting myself, if that’s the way to go.
I suppose now that I am selling yoga in Nijmegen, the answer will be Yes.
I do want people (you!) to connect with me energetically, which to me is video.
But I d rather write. Obviously. (I think I just answered my own question! lol)
(meaning: No, you should NOT do something that doesn’t lift you up in order to sell!)
Anyway, these three things:
Being an entrepreneur aka selling something (yoga, books, coaching)
Are interconnected. I can’t go around cherry picking if teaching yoga is not making enough money (as I initially did do, when I ended my yoga studio in group classes). I can’t end marketing if I think it’s costing too much time.
I can’t end writing either based on it being too time consuming, or feeling spent. Which I do.
So I knew all that by now.
I knew that even, worst case scenario, I had to spend an entire workweek in a regular job, I would still need to do my selling, my writing and my teaching in some form, or I wouldn’t do either one of them, and be stuck in a job with no life of my own.
I couldn’t just pick one of the three.
So I was setting up this Passion Planner, and it comes with cool mind maps where you draw out your goals into steps and plans.
Because I knew I would pick that up as well, and one of these days I would create a Mind Map for myself; I decided to just write out my goals and dreams one more time, on my own.
And deduct the key ingredients my life should have.
The main goals in my life are to be my own boss, and be from home for limited hours, so that I can have a nice life with cats and ample free time to do whatever I want.
And the second goal is to have a lover, or feel sexually attractive anyway, and feel good within my own body.
And I realized that for both goals the basic thing that was needed was the same:
To become (or be) magnetic.
Magnetic so people feel just as good as you do, and happy with themselves. And you make their day better, and everything feels light and easy for the both of you.
To be magnetic is the key thing for everything I want.
Which is why, coming back to the video example, I should not make videos unless I first feel really good. And then also, start paying attention what filming actually does to me.
Does it make me feel good, and more on fire?
Or does it deplete me, and start to doubt myself?
All energy I can’t spend on my clients, or other people I encounter.
To make feeling magnetic the prime focus of my day, feels like an absolute breakthrough in knowing what to do, or what not to do.
And writing this post, did not make me feel spent at all 🙂
Follow the marshmallows. *
*) Follow the marshmallows is based on the idea that the most likely way God will show you your path, is by making it look urgent and/or very appealing.
You will feel an urge, a rush of energy, a pull towards it!
Like wanting to pick up teaching yoga 😉
It will actually require effort to not do it, to restrain yourself.
Don’t restrain, eat the marshmallow. And more likely than not, the second marshmallow will appear immediately after.
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