I used to date a polyamorous man. I was not one of his lovers, but his platonic friend who always asked curious questions on how one managed, what I considered to be, his harem.
A skill mastered by few these days I’d say.

But he was really good at it and seemed to use a classification system based on the types of dates they preferred, or the minimum requirement he could get away with, that helped him to run things smoothly.

I never considered joining the ranks but used the opportunity to study him. And I am now falling back on it to design this new era, in which I desire to have three lovers.

My setup will be tailored to being in love, so I am emotionally polyamorous.

This could also be an email correspondence, Zoom dates, sending letters by carrier pigeons, or a platonic friendship with a man who finds me way too intimidating to have sex with but asks probing questions and maps out what I do in his head, so that he can use it if 15 years from now he wants it for himself.

I got you.

The most important thing I’ve got so far is discretion.

Our friendship should not be a secret but whenever I talk about you as a lover, I will call you by the name your character has in my Lauren year 2000 diary.
Which will not be published until 2 years after, and you will be informed about the diary before you choose to become a lover.

The second element is (of course) impeccable safeR sex.
This topic will be brought up on a very early date, so neither one feels pressured and we can plan for alternatives.

The third element is support on vulnerable moments.
For example a call if you feel insecure about our arrangement.
But my choice will be a check-in the next day. 

If I’m feeling bad, I want him to plan for a slower, easier type of sex next time.

And if I’m in the best of spirits and totally rocking it, I want him to smile and understand he can push me a little bit harder next time.

Or a lot.

~Lauren
An unexamined life is not worth living

Harteveld 2025*
Are 2200 characters, or less.
The name is inspired by the book Fretz 2025 by Johan Fretz and asterisk by the 2025 movie Thunderbolts*