Episode 4
The Horned Ones

Topic: Aries, Taurus, and Capricorn Men 

Management summary: 
You can leave your hooves on.
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There are three signs represented by a hoofed animal:
Aries, Taurus and Capricorn.

Aries, the ram, is the very first sign of the zodiac. It is the only fire sign of the three, and represents new beginnings, and childlike strength and willpower.
But anyone who is familiar with the 90s series Xena, the Warrior Princess, will not need any of those pointers because Aries was personified as the Greek God Ares, Xena’s on and off lover in the series.

This Divine Masculine was immoral, impossible, evil more often than not, and of course totally irresistible.
Their history was a long and problematic one, where he was the one, if I recall correctly, who put the warrior into the princess.
And she was his Warrior Queen on many battles before she converted to being a warrior who saved people, instead of slaying them.

But the spark between them never died, and they did rekindle their affair occasionally later on in the series, when his personality had become more friendly.

Xena’s Ares God of War =  forever the sign of Aries.
I will die on that ancient Greek hill.
And yet, I will also eat my words on this. Because “my” Aries lovers had nothing in common with Ares, God of War. 

They were gentle, layered and, although they never shared their depths with me; It was obviously all there.
Referring to them as “the child of the zodiac”, would be selling them short in a major way.
So although for this first introduction I have introduced Aries to you by means of Ares, God of War, beware that this is only for as long as this article runs.
And then I’ll have you change your mind.

The second hoofed one, is going to be extremely short; Taurus.

Because I have never fallen in love with a Taurus man.
They’re ruled by Venus, just like the sign of Libra, an easy sign for me to fall in love with.
So it’s very odd that out of these two signs (Libra and Taurus) – both harmonious, both creating a life around beauty and art and good food (Taurus is even more associated with good food than Libra) – I have an overwhelming preference for Libra, and Taurus is one of the signs I don’t think I’ve ever fallen in love with.

Apparently Venus the Goddess of Love does not appear for me, through the sign of Taurus, but will always open the door to love through the sign of Libra.

So if you fall in love with a Taurus, I’d say:
Go for it. You will definitely not regret it, and will probably be sold on them for life.
But Taurus does not appear to be my type, as far as falling in love goes.

I do however have a great relationship with the female Taurusses in my life, but this series is called In the Stars “where I talk about men” (not women), so I’m not going to write about female Taurus, Capricorn or Aries.

The final one with horns; Capricorn.
Oh, where do I start?!
All good, all good, but can we start off with Capricorn being something of an acquired taste?
Because I think it is, they are. Capricorns are not for the faint at heart, but worth it every hoofed step of the treacherous way.

For context to these bold claims: In Tarot, the sign of Capricorn is associated with the major arcana card “The Devil”. 
Taurus with The Hierophant, the religious advisor.
And Aries with the unapologetic leadership of The Emperor.
Capricorn did not have a lucky draw here but arguably, they did have the most interesting one.

Which could explain why Capricorn energy has been quite abundant throughout my life! There seems to be an understanding between us, in a grounded, stable, no fuss way, that provides a foundation on which we can basically build anything we fancy.
And that, is rare.
There is a sturdiness to them and if I had to choose one man, one sign, to end up on a deserted island, I’d choose the sign of Capricorn.

Just like mountain goats are the only ones skilled to climb rough terrain with dangerous cliffs, in the same way Capricorn men are the only ones who can survive the rough challenges capitalism presents.
Or deserted islands.
The only ones who will have their emotions under control, and will fill up their brains with whatever is required to move forward in life.
Until they reach the top.

On the foot of the mountain, I am with an Aries man.
Our fire isn’t big enough to provide enough warmth to compensate what feels like a cold between us.
It’s not a hostile one, more like a draft. The unmistakable sign that two people, although well intentioned, have hid a brick wall mostly within themselves.
Something they cannot express, but they both know the evening will not recover from this. It’s over.

With an Aries man neither one will get what they want, it will always fall short. Either on the date itself, or in the months after.
And always for the exact same reasons:
Because one of you or (more likely) both, are bringing expectations or hopes that you fail to verbalize. Not even after they were not magically picked up and met.

Aries men and me took action moving the connection forward, yes.
The encounters carried an element of bravery in them, that is usually absent from the dating game.

But our action-taking nor our bravery were rewarded by a happily ever after, but with an experience that would force us to look at our inner-world. To face the very thing we didn’t want to face, and had secretly hoped the other would magically fix for us.

Dating an Aries man is not flawless, nor spectacular, nor everything you dreamed of. But because he faces the pushback head on, and carries that pain of whatever it was the two of you bumped into, he still sets an inspiring example.

You will come out having learned extremely important lessons.
Which, I assume, really could not have been learned any other way.
Where your blind spots are and to take responsibility for what you want.
Because he sure as hell isn’t going to.

The series’ intro explains;
“She was Xena, a mighty princess, forged in the heat of battle.”

An Aries Man is the one who will turn every princess, ultimately and inevitably;
Into a warrior.

~Lauren
An unexamined life is not worth living